Ever you fall in love with anyone. Often the experience of love is a bitter one, for many of us. This is because there is an illusion, that in order to be happy, we must acquire the things or in order to be in love, we must possess or be attached to that person. But in reality the reverse is the truth. It is the basic spiritual truth that in order to be in love, we must be detached. It appears to be a contradiction to our conditioned mind. But when we are attached to anything it becomes a trapfor our consciousness. We think about the person or thing unnecessarily. This exhausts our mental energy and we have a feeling that we have lost control over our thoughts and feelings. Every time we think of the person we invoke a fear that, what if I lost the possession over the person or thing. Now this fear frightens us. And fear blocks our ability to love.
Indeed true love needs an atmosphere which is free from fear. To experience true love one should be spiritually full. When you are spiritually full pleasure, happiness well being flows outwards. Thus you don’t expect anything from other. You accept the person you love as they are. If you expect something
The experience of love, peace, happiness and freedom is blocked by fear and attachment. When you attach yourself to the person or object you love, feeling of fear is generated. This is opposite to your objective of love, which is happiness and enjoyment. Slowly you became dependent on that person or object (may be property) and instead of feeling wholeness you became inwardly empty and your energy level goes down.
In the purest form love always works for the benefit of others. Love means, be free and allow others to be. True love is unconditional love. It flows freely. Don’t cling and learn the art of loving.